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7 Aralık 2025 Pazar

I Remembered I Wasn't Superman

Heading to bed before 10 PM on this Sunday evening, laptop on my lap, and experiencing the justifiable pride of having "No Unread Mails"... Is this a luxury? I’m not sure, but I can’t describe how much I’ve missed this feeling.

Of course, this is somewhat the "calm before the storm." It isn't exactly a profound prediction to guess that work won't magically ease up by tomorrow morning; a mountain of emails, messages, and calls will inevitably rain down on me. But still, I need to experience the momentary peace of having gotten things on track, at least as of tonight.

In the past, at the end of very difficult days, I would wear my exhaustion like a badge of honor and say, "I earned every penny I made today right down to the last cent." Now, the intensity has increased so much that those "hard days" have given way to hard weeks, and even never-ending months.


"Excuses, Excuses..."

Recently, I was messaging my mentor regarding some additional analyses he recommended I do (I’m keeping his name private so he doesn't feel uncomfortable if he reads this, though calling him "my mentor" does sound cool). Overwhelmed by my current workload, I wrote to him saying I could "only do it at night."

His reply was short and sharp: "Excuses, excuses."

When I started listing my tasks to defend myself, he hit me with a sentence that felt like a wake-up call: "The loads you carry are actually the ones you placed on yourself. You need to remember you aren't Superman."

While I was trying to process this shock, a critique from my wife that same evening sealed the deal. When she questioned—with a slightly reproachful tone—why I was working on even irrelevant topics and why I was the one running to fix everything, I was forced to stop and think.

Stopping to Think: The Forgotten Action

Yes, "stopping to think"... It turns out this is the action I’ve skipped most amidst this hustle.

Reflecting on it, I realized that in my desire to be appreciated and to show high ownership in these corporate management processes, I took on more and more. As I tried to maintain the same quality in all my other tasks, this returned to me as overtime shifts stretching into the middle of the night.

The result? I couldn't pay enough attention to my family, and I started noticing health issues—small but whispering, "I'm here." The price was becoming heavier than I thought.

There are only a few days left in the year. I am still motivated to push through and complete this journey with the momentum of the approaching new year. But I’ve put the lesson I learned this week in my pocket: I am not Superman, and I don’t have to be.

I hope that in the new year, I can continue on a more balanced path without forgetting the lessons taught by these intense days.

For now, it’s time to enjoy "Zero Unread Mail"



9 Kasım 2025 Pazar

A Quiet Sunday with Marcus Aurelius: Preparing for Tomorrow

It’s a sunny November afternoon. I’m sitting on the balcony, enjoying the warmth and getting some Vitamin D before winter comes. The sea is calm in the distance. Everything feels peaceful—except my thoughts. Tomorrow will be busy: hard meetings, big decisions, and important conversations.

On my lap is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Two lines make me stop and think:

“If something outside upsets you, it’s not the thing itself—it’s your opinion about it. You can change that opinion anytime.”


“If an obstacle stops you from doing the right thing, don’t blame yourself. Accept it and move forward calmly.”

These words feel powerful. In business, many things are outside our control—markets change, rules shift, projects delay. But Aurelius reminds us: the problem is not the event, it’s how we see it. We can choose a better way to think.

Three Simple Lessons for Work

  1. Change the Story in Your Head
    Tomorrow’s meeting is not “stressful.” It’s an opportunity to solve problems. Think that way, and you feel stronger.

  2. Control What You Can
    If something blocks your plan, don’t waste energy on anger. Ask: What can I still do? There is always something.

  3. Accept What You Cannot Change
    Some barriers are immovable. Instead of resisting, redirect. Use your energy for what matters.

As the sun goes down, I close the book and smile. Stoic wisdom is not just old philosophy—it’s a tool for modern life. Tomorrow will be tough, but today I feel ready.

So, let's save some photos from the rest of the Sunday.





31 Ağustos 2022 Çarşamba

My Emotion is My Data

"Your emotion is your data, trust it, act upon it."

I absolutely love this sentence just after hearing it in a podcast that I listened to early this morning.  

 
It is coming to the end of the summer, and I had enough time to listen to myself and notice the trends within myself. Especially, in the evenings when my son went to bed, it was “me time” which means the escape time to read, write and charge the soul before the winter. I know “winter is coming” or as recently called by Jerome Powell, pain is coming” so that I did my best to understand my pain points and to serve for it. 


This content is created in a coffee-shop
 
What does Volkan feel and want? 
 
Let’s start with the fact that it might be so personal. Everybody is unique with their own dreams, desires, pains, problems, so on and so forth. As a father responsible for his family, the economic crisis in Turkey is a heavy load that I lift. I need to make financial plans, calculate their potential risks and benefits to create passive income against the increasing impacts of inflation. This can be sometimes so tiring, but it is a fact that I feel I need to deal with. Thanks God, I am working for a multinational company (Philip Morris International) but the life in Turkey is relatively hard for everyone. In order to increase my level of financial literacy, I spent some quality time reading and watching videos to learn from others’ learnings. Now I have new plans to fight against inflation but when you are responsible for not only yourself but the whole family you need to bear in mind this responsibility for every penny that you risk.  
 
Secondly, I found much more time to follow up how my son develops, what makes him motivated, what makes him unsatisfied and even tired throughout this summer. Working remotely enables me to work from away and this opens the summer houses of our families to stay. Within office hours spent at family houses, my son spends time on robotic coding, mainly learned (or we can say increased his level of proficiency in) robotic programming languages like Scratch, Thinkercad. He attended online courses, watched YouTube videos, and brought some products into life. As his parents, the time he spent on such activities is highly motivating for us. As a supporter of digitalization in my business life, seeing him spending time on such activities when he is just 8 years old makes me so “delighted”. On the other hand, seeing his interest and abilities makes me feel alarmed that I need to take further steps to support him towards this area. As his parents, we should provide the resources that he needs. Do I clearly know about it? I have some estimates, but I am not sure about them. Finding a low-budget Udemy course for Scratch or a free learning program by municipalities are what we have done so far but maybe he needs more in the upcoming period because the world is changing so quickly, and more professional support may be needed. I am not a hundred percent sure, but this also has financial costs like private school support. So far, I have heard that private schools have such coding classes, but government schools do not. And as you may guess, the prices of these private schools skyrocketed, and I don’t prefer it in his early ages but later may be too late for him. Spending the budget in these early years may open some new doors but what about the opportunity cost for future investments on him? 
 
The last feeling is about the next step in my career. Taking further steps in my career path always motivates me. Two years ago, I got the title: Finance Manager and working in Duty Free affiliate which was highly impacted by pandemic made me learn a lot. I am working with great people, and I love the people and company. On top of this, dreams never end. I keep on dreaming: hopefully, one day I will work in a foreign country with much more responsibility than today. In order to reach this objective, I am investing in myself. One of these investments is English conversation lessons in Rosetta Stone. In each one-to-one class, as an icebreaker, lecturer asks me the reason for attending the class and I describe my motivation towards working in a foreign country. I tell about the economic problems in Turkey and education opportunities for my son. I repeat this every lecture (Yes, I noticed that I repeated it once again) and working for it. On the other hand, I see that the number of international assignments decrease as remote work and digitalization enables us to do our responsibilities all around the world but who knows, maybe one day… The critical thing is being ready for that opportunity if it comes one day. 
 
I described my three major emotions above and how they make me think and act. At least, I had the chance to notice them, think about them and act about them. Let’s see what time will bring… Stay tuned for the updates and always follow up your feelings because they are your data. 


I feel good if I am writing

Books (especially e-books) are my resources


1 Ocak 2019 Salı

Lessons from 2018 to 2019

Madem bugün 1 Ocak 2019, motivasyon için okuduğum Robin Sharma'dan kendim için aldığım notları şuray bırakayım. Etkileyici bulduklarım bunlar, ya sizin?


THE GREATEST LESSONS 2018 HAS TAUGHT ME

BY ROBIN SHARMA

Success has less to do with hard work and more to do with massive focus on your few best opportunities.

If you don’t make the time for yourself to get inspired, no one around you will ever be inspired.

Reviewing your Big 5 annual goals every morning and working on your plan every day is an exceptionally powerful way to breed unbeatable focus and drive.

Self-belief is so incredibly important. Because if you don’t believe you can achieve a vision/goal, then you won’t even start to do the work needed to achieve that vision/goal.

Our biggest enemy is our own self-doubt. We really can achieve extraordinary things in our lives. But we sabotage our greatness because of our fear.

Join a mastermind group. It’s just remarkable what being in a room full of people who are smarter than yourself does for your performance.

Related to the above, remember what Dennis Kimbro once said: “If you’re the smartest one of your friends, you need new friends.”



18 Kasım 2018 Pazar

Ronaldo - A Biography of a Boy Who Rose Out of Poverty

Recently, I have read the biography of Cristiano Ronaldo. It was an amazing book which I really liked a lot and will keep it in my library as one of the most motivating books I've ever read. The book is named Football Book of the Year at the Cross Sports Book Awards 2016. 

Although it was a paperback format book, I took notes from the book to my Evernote while reading and then collected them all in one content below.

The book has also another special importance for me. I purchased it from a book store when I was in Romania. So I went out with it a lot as I was away from my family. Here are some of my memories (photos) with the book.
 
 I bought this book with some other books for my son

I enjoyed it in Business Class flight as well

When I went out for dinner, the book was my mate

Just after the office hour, a quick break with some cheesecake and Ronaldo

From the book "Ronaldo" 

Only part of the truth is told. Whatever we think will be of interest. Or whatever we think will sell best. 

There is no art without obsession. 

If you don't put much in, you don't get much back. 

Everybody takes photographs of the Eiffel Tower, but the key lies in taking the one that nobody has seen before. 

If we were born to be poor, we will be... But be close to your children at the very least. 

Nobody considered it a limitation - it never is when everyone is in the same situation. 

The owner of the ball sets the rules. 

In a poor village, you have no choice but to have character. If you don't, they eat you up. Either you step on them or they step on you.

We didn't achieve it but our son can dream it. 

It is the one who puts it the most hours, perseverance and hard work who ends up achieving his goals in the end. 

Money used as a barometer of status and personal value, perhaps typical comments by a boy who rose out of poverty. 

He isn't the present, he is the future. 

It was a period of transformation. Some were visible and physical, while others were deep and internal. 

When there is passion, there is no place for reason. 

Good players must run, too, it is non-negotiable. 

I drink Red Bull while I buy my friends champagne at 1000 pound plus a bottle. It is no problem - I like my friends to be happy. 

It was a type of fight between alpha males. It ended as they all do: with the coach leaving. No matter how good he is, he can't get you fifty goals a season.

Football is a tool for self-improvement. Why football? Because it is what closest to him.  If his father had worked at a swimming club, maybe he'd be a world champion swimmer. The desire to better yourself and fight is intrinsic, football is circumstantial.

23 Eylül 2016 Cuma

Smartcuts: How Hackers, Innovators, and Icons Accelerate Success

Entrepreneur and journalist Shane Snow (Wired, Fast Company, The New Yorker, and cofounder of Contently) analyzes the lives of people and companies that do incredible things in implausibly short time.

Serial entrepreneur and journalist Shane Snow delves into the reasons why some people and some organizations are able to achieve incredible things in implausibly short time frames, showing how each of us can use these "smartcuts" to rethink convention and accelerate success.

Throughout history, the world's biggest successes have been achieved by those who refuse to follow the expected course and buck the norm.
Smartcuts is about bucking the norm.
Smartcuts tells the stories of innovators who dared to work differently and lays out practical takeaways for the rest of us. It's about applying entrepreneurial and technological concepts to success, and how, by emulation, we too can leapfrog competitors, grow businesses, and fix society's problems faster than we think.

Let's look at the highlights I have taken from the book:


​“We work hard, but hardly question whether we’re working smart.
Pick your era in history and you’ll find a handful of people—across industries and continents—who buck the norm and do incredible things in implausibly short amounts of time. The common pattern is that, like computer hackers, certain innovators break convention to find better routes to stunning accomplishments.”

“Pretend you are driving a car in the middle of a thunderstorm and you happen upon three people on the side of the road. One of them is a frail old woman, who looks on the verge of collapse. Another is a friend who once saved your life. The other is the romantic interest of your dreams, and this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to meet him or her. You have only one other seat in the car.
Who do you pick up?
There’s a good reason to choose any of the three. The old woman needs help. The friend deserves your payback. And clearly, a happy future with the man or woman of your dreams will have an enormous long-term impact on your life.
So, who should you pick?
The old woman, of course. Then, give the car keys to your friend, and stay behind with the romantic interest to wait for the bus!
This dilemma is an exercise in lateral thinking. It’s the kind of puzzle in which the most elegant solution is revealed only when you attack it sideways. New ideas emerge when you question the assumptions upon which a problem is based[…]”

“True success is not defined by how much money do I make, how well do I speak, how well do I deal with the subjects I deal with, But how great of a father I am.”

“Check out shanesnow.com/booklist for my recommendations”

“Want to digitize libraries of old books without typing them up yourself? Get millions of people on the Internet to do it for you. (Ever filled out those crazy letters—called CAPTCHAs—when you signed up for something online? That’s what you’re doing.)”

“Bigger or Better illustrates an interesting fact: people are generally willing to take a chance on something if it only feels like a small stretch. That’s how a group of bored students transformed a toothpick into a TV, and remarkably quicker than if they’d worked their seven-dollar-per-hour college-town jobs and saved up for one. With each trade, the players exchanged or provided value—including entertainment value.”

“To be successful, we need to start thinking more like hackers, acting more like entrepreneurs. We have to work smarter, not just harder.”

“The answer begins with a story from Homer’s Odyssey.
When the Greek adventurer Odysseus embarked for war with Troy, he entrusted his son, Telemachus, to the care of a wise old friend named Mentor. Mentor raised and coached Telemachus in his father’s absence.
But it was really the goddess Athena disguised as Mentor who counseled the young man through various important situations. Through Athena’s training and wisdom, Telemachus soon became a great hero.
“Mentor” helped Telemachus shorten his ladder of success.”

“Mentorship is the secret of many of the highest-profile achievers throughout history. Socrates mentored young Plato, who in turn mentored Aristotle. Aristotle mentored a boy named Alexander, who went on to conquer the known world as Alexander the Great.”

“The mentor story is so common because it seems to work—especially when the mentor is not just a teacher, but someone who’s traveled the road herself. “A master can help you accelerate things,” explains Jack Canfield, author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and career coach behind the bestseller The Success Principles. He says that, like C.K., we can spend thousands of hours practicing until we master a skill, or we can convince a world-class practitioner to guide our practice and cut the time to mastery significantly.”

“Data indicates that those who train with successful people who’ve “been there” tend to achieve success faster. The winning formula, it seems, is to seek out the world’s best and convince them to coach us.”

Searching for a mentor has become the professional equivalent of waiting for Prince Charming.

“There’s a big difference, in other words, between having a mentor guide our practice and having a mentor guide our journey.”

“A smartcut-savvy mentee approaches things a bit differently. She develops personal relationships with her mentors, asks their advice on other aspects of life, not just the formal challenge at hand. And she cares about her mentors’ lives too”

“The troubling thing about all these mentorship stories so far is they seem to depend heavily on luck.”

Hip-hop icon Jay-Z gives us a clue in one of his lyrics, “We were kids without fathers . . . so we found our fathers on wax and on the streets and in history. We got to pick and choose the ancestors who would inspire the world we were going to make for ourselves.

“In ancient Greece, few people had access to the best mentors. Jay-Z didn’t either, but he had books from which he could get an inkling about what those kinds of mentors were like. With every increase in communication, with every autobiography published, and every YouTube video of a superstar created, we increase our access to the great models in every category. This allows us to at least study the moves that make masters great—which is a start.
Some people are naturally good at making this work. Sam Walton, founder of Walmart, studied and stole moves from master retailers fabulously well. He openly admitted it. “Most everything I’ve done, I’ve copied from someone else,” he said.”

“Mentorship doesn’t always yield success. But when we look at superlative success stories throughout history, the presence of an in-person mentor or a world-class, long-distance mentor with whom the mentee has a deep, vulnerable relationship is almost always manifest.”

“Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes.”

“The research showed that experts—people who were masters at a trade—vastly preferred negative feedback to positive. It spurred the most improvement. That was because criticism is generally more actionable than compliments. “You did well” is less helpful in improving your bowling game than 
“You turned your wrist too much.”

“Get the thinking right and the skills come largely for free.”

“Luck is often talked about as “being in the right place at the right time.” But like a surfer, some people—and companies—are adept at placing themselves at the right place at the right time. They seek out opportunity rather than wait for it.”

“Pioneers often miss the best opportunities, which are obscured by technological and market uncertainties. In effect, early entrants may acquire the ‘wrong’ resources, which prove to be of limited value as the market evolves.”

“No matter the medium or method, giving is the timeless smartcut for harnessing superconnectors and creating serendipity.”

“There are dotcom entrepreneurs who could live top 1 percent American lifestyles and not run out of cash for 4,000 years. People who Bill Simmons would call “pajama rich,” so rich they can go to a five-star restaurant or sit courtside at the NBA playoffs in their pajamas. They have so much money that they have nothing to prove to anyone.
And many of them are totally depressed.”

“When there’s no forward momentum in our careers, we get depressed, too.”

“Success is like a lightning bolt,” Phan once declared in an interview with Mashable. “It’ll strike you when you least expect it, and you just have to keep the momentum going.”

“Apparently, patience and willpower, even creativity, are exhaustible resources. That’s why so many busy and powerful people practice mind-clearing meditation and stick to rigid daily routines: to minimize distractions and maximize good decision making.”

“In 2009 behavioral psychologists Stephen M. Garcia and Avishalom Tor showed that merely knowing there are more competitors in a competition decreases our performance. Not relative to a group, but in absolute terms. They call this the N-Effect.”

“Businesspeople will tell you that the presence of one or two serious rivals is incredibly motivating. When the rivals number in the thousands, it’s a different type of game.”

“Human nature makes us surprisingly willing to support big ideals and big swings. That means more customers, more investors, and more word-of-mouth for the dreamers.
There’s evidence both in business and academia to support 10x Thinking. But not every big dream gains followers or comes true. Just because you’re righteous doesn’t mean people will support you. You have to motivate them. You have to tell provocative stories.”

“Generally speaking, if you’re gonna make something ten percent better than the way things currently are, you better be great in sales and marketing, because you’re gonna have to talk people into changing their behavior for a very marginal increase in value, explains Astro Teller. “If, on the other hand, you make something ten times better for a large number of people—you really produce huge amounts of new value—the money’s gonna come find you. Because it would be hard not to make money if you’re really adding that much value.”

18 Temmuz 2016 Pazartesi

If It Doesn’t Suck, It’s Not Worth Doing

​According to psychological research, the anticipation of an event is almost always more emotionally powerful than the event itself.

The dread of asking your boss for a raise is paralyzing and can last months. Yet, once you get yourself to finally do it, it’s over before you know it. The excitement of attaining some object or objective can become obsessive. Yet, shortly after you obtain your desire, you’re bored and in search of something else. “We buy things to make us happy, and we succeed. But only for a while. New things are exciting to us at first, but then we adapt to them,” says Dr. Thomas Gilovich, Cornell psychologist.
Interestingly, your mind can seduce you so much so that the idea of something becomes more satisfying than the thing itself, so you stop at the idea and never make it real. Thus, in his new book, Ego is the Enemy, Ryan Holiday explains that a primary obstacle to success is the idea of success.

It’s so easy to dream.

It’s easy to tell people about your ambitions. It’s easy to create vision boards and write down your goals. It’s easy to stand in front of a mirror and declare affirmations.

And that’s where most people stop.

The very act of dreaming stops you from achieving your dreams.

You’ve played-it out in your mind with such intoxicating detail that you become satisfied enough. You become numbed. And you deceive yourself into believing you’ve actually done something productive.
Consequently, when you attempt the activity itself, you immediately hit a stone wall of resistance. More often than not, you quickly distract yourself from the discomfort with some form of momentary pleasure. Yet, Robert Greene explains in his book, Mastery, that you can learn to love this internal resistance. In his words, “You find a kind of perverse pleasure in moving past the pain this might bring.”

How To Get Out Of Your Rut

In his book, Living with a SEAL, Jesse Itzler tells the story of being inspired by a certain Navy SEAL and consequently inviting him to live at Itzler’s home for a month. Itzler admitted being in a personal rut and wanted to shake himself out of his routine.

Day 1: “SEAL” asked Itzler, “How many pull-ups can you do?” Itzler squeaked out eight shaky pull-ups.
“Take 30 seconds and do it again,” SEAL said. 30 seconds later, Itzler got on the bar and did six, struggling.
“Take 30 seconds and do it one more time,” SEAL said. 30 seconds later, Itzler got on the bar and did three, at which point his arms were exhausted.

“Alright, we’re not leaving here until you do 100 more,” SEAL stated. Itzler was puzzled. “Alright, we’re gonna be here a long-time. Cause there’s no way I could do 100.” However, Itzler ended-up completing the challenge, doing one pull-up at a time. Thus, SEAL convinced Itzler that he could do way more than he thought he could.

The principle SEAL taught is what he calls the 40% rule — which essentially means people feel maxed-out mentally and physically, and thus stop, when they are at only 40% of their actual capacity. Going past this 40% capacity is when it becomes uncomfortable. Thus, SEAL’s mantra, “If it doesn’t suck, we don’t do it.”

The Power Of Objective-Based Pursuits

“The pain is kind of challenge your mind presents — will you learn how to focus and move past boredom, or like a child will you succumb to the need for immediate pleasure and distraction?” — Robert Greene
Like Itzler who shattered a mental barrier by completing 100 pull-ups, you too can get out of your rut by pursuing tangible objectives.

The concept is: Do something and don’t stop until it’s complete, no matter how long it takes.
Your goal is to learn how to accomplish hard things without continuously distracting yourself. You want to develop what Greene calls “A perverse pleasure” in experiencing internal conflict, and sitting with it.
This concept is embedded in Crossfit. Unlike most people, who check their smartphones between exercise “sets,” at Crossfit, you have a specific objective and you kill yourself until it’s done.

If it doesn’t suck, we don’t do it.

You can apply this principle to anything and everything. You can do a homework assignment and just do it until it’s complete. You can write an article and stick-to-it until it’s published. You can do 100 pull-ups, or run 5 miles, and go until you’re done. Who cares how long it takes?

The Greatest Opportunity In History

In his book, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, Cal Newport states the following:

“The ability to perform deep work is becoming increasingly rare at exactly the same time it is becoming increasingly valuable in our economy. As a consequence, the few who cultivate this skill, and then make it the core of their working life, will thrive.”

Without question, we live in the most distracted time in human history. It is almost impossible to remain focused on a single-task for more than a few minutes at a time.

The law of opposites is in affect. With every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. While most of the world is becoming increasingly distracted, a select few are capitalizing on this fact.

Hence, Economist Tyler Cowan has said, “Average is over.” The middle-class is gone. Either you’re among the select few who are thriving, or you’re like most people who are distracted, overweight, and struggling.

The choice is yours.

When something sucks, do you quit? Or do you push-through and eventually enjoy the satisfaction of growth and success?

Anything worth doing is going to suck at the beginning. Anything worth doing is meant to require pain and sacrifice. Herein lies the problem facing America, which originally was built on the moral of impulse control. What once used to be a country filled with people sacrificing momentary pleasure for a better future, the overpowering message of today is live for the moment.

And that’s exactly what people do. They live for this moment. Consequently, when something sucks, or becomes hard, most people quit. Most people indulge themselves in momentary satisfaction at the expense of a better future.

To make matters worse, the twin “truth” of today’s culture is love yourself for who you are. The self-esteem movement of the late 20th century is an enormous contributor to America’s faltering success.
People are taught to love themselves regardless of their performance. Thus, they justify mediocrity. Yet, Asian’s and other immigrant groups who often are considered to have low self-esteem consistently outperform American’s who have high self-esteem.

Unlike in other parts of the world where hard work is seen as a virtue, the repeated phrase in America is: “Don’t work too hard!” Success these days is to get as much as you can for as little work as possible.
In the book, “The Triple Package: How Three Unlikely Traits Explain the Rise and Fall of Cultural Groups in America,” Amy Chua and Jed Rubenfeld explain that most successful people not only control their impulses, but also have an implicit sense of inferiority.

These people may have confidence, yet, they remain unsure of themselves. They have a chip on their shoulder due to being oppressed in some way. So they continuously push themselves, regardless of how successful they become, to prove themselves. They are never satisfied with what they’ve done. They continue to feel inferior.

These very traits are awarded in today’s economy because they are so rare. Again, few people control their impulses, but instead live for the moment. And few people, especially in America, have any sense of inferiority. Rather, most people have bought into the myth that you must first love yourself before you can become successful.

Garbage.

True confidence is earned. It’s earned by succeeding. Not by wishing for success.

True confidence emerges when you consistently push-through things that suck. The longer you sit with the boredom, pain, and discomfort — and actually create something meaningful, the more confident and successful you will be.

Hence, Ryan Holiday explains in an interview with Lewis Howes: you are rewarded for the work you actually accomplish. Not the promises you make.

Doing the work is hard.

Getting into elite physical condition is brutal.

Building deep and committed relationships is nearly impossible. Most marriages end in divorce.
Developing deep spiritual maturity requires giving-up who you want to be for who you really are.
All of these things “suck,” at least initially, and in-the-moment. However, if it doesn’t suck, it’s not worth doing. And you absolutely can learn to endure the discomfort of the moment to build a life worth having.
If you’re stuck in a rut, like Itzler, challenge yourself to complete specific objectives — no matter how long they take.

Pleasure Vs. Happiness

A life that doesn’t include hard-won accomplishment and triumph over obstacles may not be a satisfying one. There is something deeply fulfilling — even thrilling — in doing almost anything difficult extremely well. There is a joy and pride that come from pushing yourself to another level or across a new frontier. A life devoted only to the present — to feeling good in the now — is unlikely to deliver real fulfillment. The present moment by itself it too small, too hollow. We all need a future. Something beyond and greater than our own present gratification, at which to aim or feel we’ve contributed.” — The Triple Package

True happiness — joy — is fundamentally different than momentary pleasure. Not to say momentary pleasure is inherently bad. However, it often gets in the way of something more real and lasting.

Anything worth doing brings a satisfaction that distraction never can. Don’t give into the resistance. Push through the difficulty. That’s where a joy that those who stop will never taste.

Said Geologist James Talmage:
“Happiness leaves no bad after-taste, it is followed by no depressing reaction; it brings no regret, entails no remorse. True happiness is lived over and over again in memory, always with a renewal of the original good; a moment of pleasure may leave a barbed sting, [as] an ever-present source of anguish.”

31 Ağustos 2015 Pazartesi

Attempt the Impossible


Today, do something extra special.
Have it be something unique, out of the ordinary.
Something you’ll come into work tomorrow smiling about.
Something with some added sensory, intensity or adventure.

Do it today!

16 Ekim 2013 Çarşamba

Robin Sharma'dan Bayram Mail'imiz Var


Motivasyon ve kişisel gelişim konusunda severek okuduğum ve açıkçası beni etkisi altında bırakan Robin Sharma’dan bu bayram gününde mail aldım. Bayram olduğunun özellikle altını çiziyorum çünkü tatil olması sebebiyle daha konsantre bir şekilde gelen maili okuyup, kendimce değerlendirme fırsatı buldum.

Robin’in gönderdiği içeriğin en vurucu cümlesi, “sadece yüzde 5’in ulaştığı sonuçlara ulaşmak için sadece yüzde 5’in yapmak istediği şeyleri yapın”dı.

İşte o cümlenin orjinal hali:

“To have the results only 5% have, you need to do the things that only 5% are willing to do."

Gönderinin içeriğinde başarılarıyla dünyaya damga vurmuş olan kişilerin bazı alışkanlıkları da paylaşılmış. Özet olarak bu kişiler, güne erken başlayan, kendilerini dinlendirmeyi bilen, günlerini efektif kullanmayı başaran ve alanlarında başarı hikayeleri yazarak efsaneleşmiş isimler.

Daha fazla detay vermeden aşağıda orjinal metnin ilgili bölümünü paylaşıyorum ki esinlenmeniz konusunda araya girmiyeyim.

Read the habits below. Run them. Live them...

--Ernest Hemingway: Up at 5:30 every morning to write even if he'd been drinking the night before. He wrote as a practice, not just when he felt inspired.

--Benjamin Franklin: Sat naked every morning in fresh air for his "bath" which he swore fuelled his energy and creativity. He also listed 13 character traits he wanted to build and measured how he lived against each of them every night before he slept (in a journal).

--Padmasree Warrior (Chief Technology Officer at Cisco Systems): Regular "digital detoxes" where she unplugs from technology to reboot her brain and replenish her creative reserves.

--Leonardo da Vinci: Slept via small naps throughout the day versus sleeping 8 hours straight. The famed inventor Thomas Edison reportedly did the same thing (as does Hip-Hop mogul Sean "P. Diddy" Combs).

--Peter Ilyich Tchaikovsky: Daily walks which shifted his mindset from the mundane to the original. The Great Nelson Mandela used to walk entire days for the exercise and mind-clearing effects the discipline would deliver. So many extreme achievers take a walk every day; ideally take your walk in nature. And bring a means to capture the outpouring of fresh insights that will flow.

--Steve Jobs: Would fast for extended periods of time, recognizing that it created a sense of euphoria within him that motivated his dazzling output of ideas. He also loved carrots, eating so many during one period that his skin turned to a soft orange color.

26 Temmuz 2013 Cuma

Kariyerini Yeniden Keşfetmek

Her kitabı okumak için vakit ayırmak zor olabilir. Bunun yerine ilgini çeken kaliteli kitapların özetlerini takip etmek için getabstract.com’dan 5-6 sayfalık kitap özetini indirmek iyi bir çözüm.

The 10 Laws of Career Reinvention adlı kitabın özetini indirip okudum. İçinden bazı bölümler özellikle çok hoşuma gitti ve okurken altını çizme gereği duydum. Adobe ile artık highlight ettiğimiz metinleri bu şekilde saklayabiliyoruz, gayet güzel bir özellik, ama bunları blogum vasıtasıyla paylaşıp elimin altında tutmak ve sizlere faydalı olmak istiyorum.

Kitapta altını çizdiğim bölümler: 
  • “Career invention is a life skill.”
  • “Your career must serve your life, not vice versa.”
  • “The trick is to find a workable intersection of career interests and lifestyle; getting the most of what you want in both arenas is a recipe for satisfaction.”
  • To “make progress on your career reinvention” you must be “willing to give up the excuses and take action in spite of fear.”
  • “New roads lead to more opportunity.”
  • “Fake it till you make it”
  • “You need a strategy”
  • “Only a Native Can Give You the Inside Scoop”
  • “They Won’t ‘Get’ You Until You Speak Their Language”
  • “Confidence comes from believing in yourself”

Özellikle kısa ama etkili olan “fake it till you make it” çok motive edici! Umarım hedeflere ulaşmanızda etkili olur.

25 Temmuz 2013 Perşembe

The Best Career Advice


Do the jobs no one else wants to do...

These Quotes Might Inspire You

Be careful reading these quotes, they might just inspire you to do things you dreamed of doing, they might help you succeed and might even make you happier.

"All our dreams can come true - if we have the courage to pursue them"
Walt Disney
"Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drowned your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
Steve Jobs
“Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish it.”
Proverb
"Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein."
H. Jackson Brown Jr.
"Fear less, hope more, eat less, chew more, whine less, breathe more, talk less, say more, hate less, love more, and good things will be yours."
Swedish Proverb
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”
Les Brown
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us."
Helen Keller
"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present."
Jim Rohn
"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude."
Thomas Jefferson
"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will."
Vince Lombardi
"It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed."
Theodore Roosevelt
"Success does not consist in never making blunders, but in never making the same one a second time."
Josh Billings
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
Michael Jordan
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”
Bill Cosby
"It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult."
Seneca
"It is only the very wisest and the very stupidest who cannot change."
Confucius
"Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do."
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit."
Aristotle
"Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare."
Japanese Proverb
"A goal is a dream with a deadline."
Napoleon Hill
"Arriving at one goal is the starting point to another."
John Dewey
“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.”
Farrah Gray
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.”
Denis Waitley
“Good things come to those who wait… greater things come to those who get off their ass and do anything to make it happen.”
Proverb
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”
Lao Tzu

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