From Hero to Author: Designing Your Own Leadership Style

“Do you want to be the hero or the victim in the story?”

That question hit me hard recently. My answer? Neither. I want to be the author.

Heroes fight fires. Victims suffer circumstances. Authors design the plot. They decide what matters, what doesn’t, and how the story ends.

Why this matters in leadership

In high-pressure roles, it’s easy to default to operational heroics—being the “go-to” person for everything. It feels good in the moment, but it traps you in someone else’s script. Strategic work suffers, wellbeing erodes, and the system never improves.

Authors think differently:

• They write the ending first: What outcomes must be inevitable?
• They cast roles: Who owns what? Where are the guardrails?
• They edit ruthlessly: If it doesn’t fit the plot, delegate or delete.

My recent shift

After reflecting on feedback (and a candid Officevibe [a corporate survey] moment), I realized I was prioritizing urgent over important. So, I designed a new chapter:

• Clear responsibilities and escalation ladders to stop everything routing to me.
• Micro-automation and playbooks to kill recurring fires.
• Maker–Manager schedule to protect deep work and strategic thinking.
• Wellbeing guardrails—because sustainable performance beats burnout.

I even asked myself daily:

“What chapter am I writing today?”

Not “What inbox fire am I putting out?”

The takeaway

Leadership isn’t about being the hero. It’s about being the author—the one who makes results inevitable through systems, clarity, and foresight.

If you’re feeling stuck in reactive mode, ask:

• What’s the theme of my next chapter?
• What would make me irrelevant here (in a good way)?
• What system would make success inevitable?

Call to Action:

How do you design your own leadership narrative? Drop your thoughts below—I’d love to learn from your stories.

Some photos just after thinking about all these, while walking to the hospital for a check-up.

A Quiet Sunday with Marcus Aurelius: Preparing for Tomorrow

It’s a sunny November afternoon. I’m sitting on the balcony, enjoying the warmth and getting some Vitamin D before winter comes. The sea is calm in the distance. Everything feels peaceful—except my thoughts. Tomorrow will be busy: hard meetings, big decisions, and important conversations.

On my lap is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Two lines make me stop and think:

“If something outside upsets you, it’s not the thing itself—it’s your opinion about it. You can change that opinion anytime.”

“If an obstacle stops you from doing the right thing, don’t blame yourself. Accept it and move forward calmly.”

These words feel powerful. In business, many things are outside our control—markets change, rules shift, projects delay. But Aurelius reminds us: the problem is not the event, it’s how we see it. We can choose a better way to think.

Three Simple Lessons for Work

1. Change the Story in Your Head
   Tomorrow’s meeting is not “stressful.” It’s an opportunity to solve problems. Think that way, and you feel stronger.

2. Control What You Can
   If something blocks your plan, don’t waste energy on anger. Ask: What can I still do? There is always something.

3. Accept What You Cannot Change
   Some barriers are immovable. Instead of resisting, redirect. Use your energy for what matters.

As the sun goes down, I close the book and smile. Stoic wisdom is not just old philosophy—it’s a tool for modern life. Tomorrow will be tough, but today I feel ready.

So, let's save some photos from the rest of the Sunday.